I want to see women moving and shaking up the business world by stepping into their God-given gifts to bring something amazing only they can offer. I want women to give themselves permission to take time for their skills and hobbies and interests and themselves. Ultimately, I want to see women become successful in the way Maya Angelou defines it: “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.”
-Christy Wright Business Boutique
I’ve spent a lot of time daydreaming about how things could’ve been if I had realized what my “dream” was while I was younger. I could’ve studied business in college, spent countless hours of my single life creating and growing and selling handmade goods…all in my early twenties! “Imagine where I would be now” I always tell myself during these fantastical thought journeys. I get super excited when I meet young makers, but there’s always this lingering envy hovering above our conversation, because there are large parts of my heart that wish that were me.
I’m done with the daydreams. Biggest reason: my kids, my time being a mother, without those things I don’t think I would’ve found this passion for small handmade business, for creating and putting those things out there for a greater purpose. A lot of being a mom is dying to yourself, sacrificing, serving everyone before yourself…but it’s nearly impossible to do that (or at least to do it well) without knowing yourself first. Being a mom has forced me to explore who I am, and my limited time has pushed me to find things to fill it that bring me joy, motivate and inspire me. And although being a mom is a huge part of who I am, it’s not all of who I am. I’m also a wife, and a passionate maker, and a dream-follower. Call me crazy, but it’s taken me years after our first was born to realize that I’m allowed to still have dreams of my own while I’m a mom. Dreams aren’t just for 20-something singles.
Psst, moms, this is for you. Women with obligation, pressures, full schedules…this is for you:
You were made for more than just getting by; fulfillment is waiting for you in work that you love. You’re not a supporting character in the movie of your life; you’re the lead role. You have permission, the responsibility even, to be in the driver’s seat of your own life. That includes investing in things that bring you joy and make you proud. You have permission to do things that make you like yourself. It’s not selfish; it’s self-preservation, and it’s smart.
-Christy Wright Business Boutique
Most times, I have no idea what I’m doing. I doubt that each and pretty much, every decision I make is the right one. I tackle guilt every day, an internal fight between the “should dos” and the “want tos”. But recently I’ve finally begun to hear these truths: that I’ve been created with a purpose, with gifts and strengths that need to be utilized. Not just for my benefit, but for the benefit of those surrounding me as well. And I had no clue when I was nineteen, and that doesn’t matter in my 31st year of life and second year in business. What I’m saying is, all you have to do is put one foot in front of the other, despite the chaos of your current situation. Your circumstances do not dictate the worth of what you have to offer others.
This is your moment, don’t look down.
You’re ready, born ready
and all you gotta do is put one foot in front of you.
Our ceiling is your floor, and all you gotta do is put one foot in front of you.
-Sleeping at Last Daughter
This picture of me and my girls isn’t the prettiest, it’s blurry, rushed, and a bit forced. But it’s real, and it’s in the middle of Barnes & Noble after walking through the pouring rain and it marks such a significant moment in my (our) life. Trying to grow a business while also being a full-time mom isn’t the prettiest, it’s blurry, rushed and a bit forced at times too, but it’s full of so much purpose and worth.
My hope is that every moment my girls see their mom busting it for something she’s passionate about, that they’re tucking those images away in their hearts for the days when they’re realizing that they too were given dreams. Dreams specific to how they were made, especially for them.
My hope is that they know that despite lack of time, knowhow, chaos, cancer, age, limitations, lies, or fear, that they can chase those dreams.
My hope is that they know that all they gotta do is put one foot in front of the other, with that dream in their heart, and trust that in His timing and with His guidance, they’ll catch it, they’ll live it out with hope and a future.
‘For I know the plans I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’